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book review: 7 Ways To Be Her Hero

7 ways to be her heroTitle: 7 Ways To Be Her Hero: The One She’s Been Waiting For

Author: Doug Feilds

Publisher: Thomas Nelson

Complimentary copy provided by: NetGalley

Rating: A+

 

Celebrating ten years of marriage this year, I committed to read one book each month for the next twelve months about marriage and relationships. What a great way to start my “marriage enhancing” journey than with 7 Ways To Be Her Hero by Doug Fields.

7 Ways To Be Her Hero is the reason I enjoy reviewing books. Fields has written a witty and insightful self-help ‘manual’ intended to act as a guide for men who wish to enhance their marriage.

Yes. I know. I am not a man. I admit my curiosity and I read it anyway. I am one of the “sneaky women” Fields refers to who picked up a copy in order to scope it out. As much as I wanted to see how “on target” the author is when it comes to marriage advice for men, I also hoped to glimpse into the male psyche to glean what’s occurring in the “man chatter” these days about marriage so that I may learn how to improve my relationship with my hubby. I was pleasantly surprised on both accounts. Fields is right on target and I walked away with a fun list of ways to improve my relationship.

With a great deal of humour infused, Fields’ conversational style is endearing and immediately disarms any potential prickles that could poke the reader by sharing so openly from his own mishaps and experiences over 30 years of marriage.

While 7 Ways To Be Her Hero can certainly be considered a quick read, I’d advise against it. Skimming through will defeat the purpose. The principles and advice shared are relevant for men in any season of marriage (or can be referenced for a genuine refresher).

My only critique is in regard to the formatting for e-reader devices. I use a Kindle Paperwhite and at times I found the formatting choppy and broken, especially around chapter transitions, which I found distracting.

(I received a complimentary copy of this title from the publisher via NetGalley for an honest review.)

About the Author:

Doug FieldsDoug Fields was a youth pastor for 25 years and has been teaching pastor at Rick Warren’s Saddleback Church since 1992. An award-winning author of more than 40 books, Doug speaks regularly at Saddleback and other locations around the world. He and his wife Cathy have 3 children.

To find out more about Doug Fields visit: http://www.dougfields.com/

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book review: Fun Loving You

Blog - Fun Loving YouTitle: Fun Loving You

Author: Ted Cunningham

Publisher: David C. Cook Publishers

Complimentary Copy Provided via NetGalley

Rating: A

 “Ted Cunningham gets it. Starting with his very first paragraph he shows you how to have

a vibrant, fun-filled marriage. And what I love the most is that he and his wife Amy live

in the real world and know how to relate to our lives.”

Dan Seaborn, speaker, author and founder of Winning at Home

Publisher’s Description:

For a Good Time, Call Home! Ted Cunningham has a surprising definition of marriage: a man and a woman enjoying life together. In fact, God created marriage to be a blast—even when it feels like the rest of life is going to explode. This refreshing book will help you:

  • Laugh together again (it’s easier than you think)
  • Make sex even more exciting than on your honeymoon
  • Discover how to make doing dishes together a party
  • Fight as teammates, not opponents
  • Figure out how to break the routine without breaking the bank
  • Remember why your spouse is the most likeable person you know

Fun Loving You puts laughter, fun, and even spin-the-bottle back into marriage.

My Thoughts:

What a delightful read. If you are married I suggest adding a copy of Fun Loving You to your “Marriage & Relationship” home library shelf. Author Pastor Ted Cunningham’s passion for helping couples live healthy, thriving marriages oozes off every page. With a passion for helping “people develop and maintain loving and honoring marriages,” every chapter of Fun Loving You is filled with encouraging stories, honest advice, practical activities for strengthening communication, and thoughtful reflection questions to engage solo or with your spouse.

While Fun Loving You is written for couples who have been together for some time, as a means to help overcome the routine and complacency that tends to settle into relationships with time, the context will speak to, and benefit, any season of marriage

Author - Ted CunninghamAuthor Bio: Ted Cunningham is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri. A graduate of Liberty University and Dallas Theological Seminary, Cunningham is the author or co-author of numerous books, including Trophy Child and Young and in Love. He and his wife have two children.

Guest Post: Author Sheri Rose Shepherd

Hello and welcome back for installment two from Sheri Rose Shepherd, author of Your Heart’s Desire: 14 Truths That Will Forever Change The Way You Love And Are Loved. Ms. Shepherd’s latest work contains advice and encouragement for women of all relationship types: single, married, and divorced. Today’s article entices single women to avoid the pitfalls of ‘disaster dating’ by proactively assessing the qualities important in a partner–and holding firm. No settling!

Enjoy!

~Su

You Don’t Need a Man to Push the “Play Button” for Your Life to Begin!
An Article for Singles
By Sheri Rose Shepherd
Bestselling Author and Bible Life Coach
I have been married twenty-five years, and my husband and I joke that it has been seven of the best years of our lives. Why is it that we spend so much time searching for someone to share life with, and so many times the dream of wanting and wondering becomes better than the reality of the man or the marriage?

I believe when a man walks down the aisle and says “I do,” his every hope and intention is that his marriage will be for life. He sincerely desires to understand and take care of the beloved bride he has chosen. He romanced her and worked hard to express his love so she would want to spend the rest of her life with him. He was determined to be her hero and lovingly lead her safely through life. The challenge for a man begins after he makes his wedding vows because, generally, no one has taught him how to accomplish his God-appointed position in a woman’s life.

Eventually, a man’s attempts at love, leadership, and even heroism may miss their mark, and his beloved bride gradually withdraws emotionally from the very one she hoped would give her happily ever after. Sadly, she often closes up her spirit in order to protect her heart from any more hurt.

The man she longs for ends up feeling frustrated and angry, and he may give up trying. Their love story, which once fostered hopes of intimacy, happiness, and growing old together, withers into isolation, pain, and despair or divorce. I don’t believe our desire to find a good man is wrong, and we do have every reason to be cautious. Even in the church it seems that just about every day we hear about another man of faith who has fallen away from his wife, his family, and his moral convictions. Single women tell me about the heartache they experience after years of dating men who seem unwilling to commit.

If you are single, I would love to share with you a “love checklist” to help you avoid pouring your heart into the wrong relationship. I have discovered it is better to be single and satisfied than heartbroken in the wrong relationship. If you are willing to open your heart to some motherly wisdom, please read on . . .

The Love List . . .

  1. Look at the way a man loves his mother because it is the way he will eventually love his wife.
  2. Pay attention to the way he reacts when there is stress or conflict.
  3. Meet his friends and keep in mind that the people he hangs with are a reflection of his heart.
  4. Pay attention to what your good friends see in him, because often those who love you can see better than you can see when you’re falling in love.
  5. Look at what he reads and what he watches on television, because they will be a reflection of his moral fiber.
  6. Do your best not to be too physical, because it will cloud your vision and confuse your heart.
  7. It is imperative that a man respect your boundaries without challenging them.
  8. Ask him to pray for you often, because you will need a man who knows how to cover you in prayer.
  9. Ask yourself whether you feel at home when you’re with him or whether you act like someone you’re not to get him to like you.
  10. Before you say “I do,” go through premarital counseling with a pastor.

Let’s pray for your future husband. . . .

Dear Lord,

I pray for my future husband, wherever he is in the world right now. Prepare me to become the kind of bride he will need when we come together. Until You make me ready for him, let the only intimate relationship I seek be with You. Blind my eyes from wanting any other man than the one You have for me. Remove all men in my life who may keep me from recognizing him. Give me wisdom to seek what is pure and right in Your sight while I wait for him. Put such a deep passion in my heart for my purpose that I won’t be distracted or discouraged from pursuing all that You have for me. Deliver me from the traps of the enemy, and train me now to resist temptation. Keep me from falling into a counterfeit relationship, and give me the strength not to settle for second best. Give me the stamina to run this “singles” race until I cross the finish line and receive his heart—and Your blessing—as the prize. Amen.

For more teaching from the Your Heart’s Desire book and Bible study, visit www.biblelifecoaching.com.