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book review: 7 Ways To Be Her Hero

7 ways to be her heroTitle: 7 Ways To Be Her Hero: The One She’s Been Waiting For

Author: Doug Feilds

Publisher: Thomas Nelson

Complimentary copy provided by: NetGalley

Rating: A+

 

Celebrating ten years of marriage this year, I committed to read one book each month for the next twelve months about marriage and relationships. What a great way to start my “marriage enhancing” journey than with 7 Ways To Be Her Hero by Doug Fields.

7 Ways To Be Her Hero is the reason I enjoy reviewing books. Fields has written a witty and insightful self-help ‘manual’ intended to act as a guide for men who wish to enhance their marriage.

Yes. I know. I am not a man. I admit my curiosity and I read it anyway. I am one of the “sneaky women” Fields refers to who picked up a copy in order to scope it out. As much as I wanted to see how “on target” the author is when it comes to marriage advice for men, I also hoped to glimpse into the male psyche to glean what’s occurring in the “man chatter” these days about marriage so that I may learn how to improve my relationship with my hubby. I was pleasantly surprised on both accounts. Fields is right on target and I walked away with a fun list of ways to improve my relationship.

With a great deal of humour infused, Fields’ conversational style is endearing and immediately disarms any potential prickles that could poke the reader by sharing so openly from his own mishaps and experiences over 30 years of marriage.

While 7 Ways To Be Her Hero can certainly be considered a quick read, I’d advise against it. Skimming through will defeat the purpose. The principles and advice shared are relevant for men in any season of marriage (or can be referenced for a genuine refresher).

My only critique is in regard to the formatting for e-reader devices. I use a Kindle Paperwhite and at times I found the formatting choppy and broken, especially around chapter transitions, which I found distracting.

(I received a complimentary copy of this title from the publisher via NetGalley for an honest review.)

About the Author:

Doug FieldsDoug Fields was a youth pastor for 25 years and has been teaching pastor at Rick Warren’s Saddleback Church since 1992. An award-winning author of more than 40 books, Doug speaks regularly at Saddleback and other locations around the world. He and his wife Cathy have 3 children.

To find out more about Doug Fields visit: http://www.dougfields.com/

book review: Fun Loving You

Blog - Fun Loving YouTitle: Fun Loving You

Author: Ted Cunningham

Publisher: David C. Cook Publishers

Complimentary Copy Provided via NetGalley

Rating: A

 “Ted Cunningham gets it. Starting with his very first paragraph he shows you how to have

a vibrant, fun-filled marriage. And what I love the most is that he and his wife Amy live

in the real world and know how to relate to our lives.”

Dan Seaborn, speaker, author and founder of Winning at Home

Publisher’s Description:

For a Good Time, Call Home! Ted Cunningham has a surprising definition of marriage: a man and a woman enjoying life together. In fact, God created marriage to be a blast—even when it feels like the rest of life is going to explode. This refreshing book will help you:

  • Laugh together again (it’s easier than you think)
  • Make sex even more exciting than on your honeymoon
  • Discover how to make doing dishes together a party
  • Fight as teammates, not opponents
  • Figure out how to break the routine without breaking the bank
  • Remember why your spouse is the most likeable person you know

Fun Loving You puts laughter, fun, and even spin-the-bottle back into marriage.

My Thoughts:

What a delightful read. If you are married I suggest adding a copy of Fun Loving You to your “Marriage & Relationship” home library shelf. Author Pastor Ted Cunningham’s passion for helping couples live healthy, thriving marriages oozes off every page. With a passion for helping “people develop and maintain loving and honoring marriages,” every chapter of Fun Loving You is filled with encouraging stories, honest advice, practical activities for strengthening communication, and thoughtful reflection questions to engage solo or with your spouse.

While Fun Loving You is written for couples who have been together for some time, as a means to help overcome the routine and complacency that tends to settle into relationships with time, the context will speak to, and benefit, any season of marriage

Author - Ted CunninghamAuthor Bio: Ted Cunningham is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri. A graduate of Liberty University and Dallas Theological Seminary, Cunningham is the author or co-author of numerous books, including Trophy Child and Young and in Love. He and his wife have two children.

book review & author interview: The Gospel Centered Woman

The Gospel Centered WomanTitle: The Gospel Centered Woman

Author: Wendy Alsup

Complimentary Copy Provided by: Litfuse Publicity Group

Rating: A

To tell the truth, I’m still working my way through Ms. Alsup’s wonderful gem of a book, The Gospel Centered Woman: Understanding Biblical Womanhood through the Lens of the Gospel. There are books I tend to skim through, pulling what I need as I go along. And then there are books, like this one, that require a little more attention; every chapter really packs a wallop. The term, “breakin’ it down” comes to mind, for in every chapter Ms. Alsup is bustin’ out the root-of-such-and-such-word here, or the meaning behind so-and-so-word there. It’s quite exciting, educational and trans-formative. When insight such as this comes along, I don’t want to push through or rush the material. Nope, I want to take my time and let it percolate around in my brain as I interact with it, process it, pick at it, and absorb it.

So, what I can affirm is that Wendy Alsup has a passion for dialoguing about the definition, implication and applications of Biblical Womanhood. Wendy Alsup has a way of teaching the deeper meaning of a text in such a way that produce meaningful applications to faith, life, and relationships. And, as a result of working my way through Wendy Alsup’s book, I am encouraged, challenged, and inspired.

But, don’t just take it from me. Wendy Alsup joins us today to share some of her passion with you. Enjoy!

Please welcome author Wendy Alsup! You may find more about Ms. Alsup at www.theologyforwomen.org

Author Wendy Alsup

Q: There are a couple of terms we heard thrown around a lot, but we may not understand what either really means. What exactly is practical theology? What is Biblical womanhood?

In college, I was intrigued by math I could use—applied mathematics.  I hated irrelevant math–math that didn’t seem to have any practical value except for proving the logical prowess of the math professor teaching it.  My personal intolerance for irrelevant things bled over into theology.  The theological words I heard seminary students using were way out of my range, and the topics they debated seemed irrelevant to where I was in life.  But surely, theology, which means basically the study of God, has to have some relevance to my daily life, right?  So I now use the term practical theology.  It’s theology in its most basic sense, the study of God, and it is most definitely relevant.  If He is before all things and by Him all things hold together (Colossians 1:17), then knowing Him, His loves, and His work intensely affects my daily life.

Biblical womanhood means different things to different people, often depending on what circles of Christianity they frequent.  When I use the term, I mean what the Bible teaches about women and the instructions it gives to women.  I use the Bible itself to let me know which passages are ones that God wants us to use to build a vision of Biblical womanhood. Not every passage that mentions women is to be emulated or obeyed. That seems intuitive to me, but apparently that’s not clear to all people who use the term Biblical womanhood.

Q: What is your new book The Gospel-Centered Woman about?

The Gospel-Centered Woman is simply about understanding Biblical womanhood through the lens of the gospel.  The good news of Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection changes everything according to Scripture, and that includes how women view themselves and understand the Bible’s instructions to them.

Q: What makes theology different for women vs. men?

The theology itself isn’t different, but the way we approach it sometimes is.  Women tend toward warmer, more relational presentations (that’s a generalization, I know).  I realized at some point that, at least in my circles, the results of that desire for warm, relational interactions with other believing women was what I call pink-fluffy-bunny Bible studies.  The women I knew longed for something deeper and resonated with my pursuit of deep Biblical truth in a warm, relational way.  I’m still on that journey and have appreciated the encouragement from many other women on similar journeys.  The deepest things of the character of God minister to me in exactly those places in my heart.

Q: Why did you choose to write about this topic?

I’m not sure if I chose it, or it chose me.  I think the latter.  Biblical Womanhood has been a hot topic in Christian discussion for some time.  I’ve read many books espousing different views on what God wants women to do, especially in the home and church.  I’ve always felt there was a big hole in how the topic was presented.  In many books, women were encouraged to be like Ruth or the Proverbs 31 woman.  But what about Christ?  Romans 8 says we were predestined to be conformed to His image.  Doesn’t that mean women too?  Does He not have something to offer women on the topic of womanhood?

Then Rachel Held Evans published A Year of Biblical Womanhood, and the topic took off in the blogosphere.  I felt her book didn’t address Biblical womanhood at all, at least as I understand the phrase, because she didn’t use the Bible’s own guidelines for what parts of Scripture are and are not prescriptive for the average woman today longing to live as the Bible instructs.  I couldn’t hold back from that point, and after publishing bits and pieces of my thoughts on my blog, reader after reader encouraged me to publish the thoughts altogether.  I’m not addressing Rachel’s book or others by either egalitarians or complementarians per se.  My book is not against any of them, but I do hope to offer a third way to understand the Bible’s instructions to women.  It’s not new.  Actually, it’s ancient.  But at some point, we got off course in how we discussed these things in the Church, in my opinion.  This is my meager attempt to reroute the discussion.

Q: Let’s get practical, what are some ways you share that women can be gospel-centered?

Wow.  That’s a tough question to answer shortly.  The phrase “some ways” contradicts the term “gospel-centered,” at least in the way I use it.  Instead, think of an entirely different paradigm.  The gospel is a BIG word, encompassing the fullness of all Christ ushered in through His life, death, and resurrection.  And understanding it is the pursuit of a lifetime.  When I am centered in it, it is the environment in which I spend my life.  Like any new environment, I need to learn its distinguishing features.  I focus in the book on how this environment gives us an entirely different lens through which to view our creation as women as strong helpers in the image of God. When we understanding the fullness of the way Scripture speaks of the good news of Jesus Christ, we can then, in the moment of struggle or pain, wrestle with God over how that good news makes a difference in that very struggle.

Q: From the world’s perspective, what does the “perfect Christian woman” look like? Is that ideal really Biblical?

In some circles, she may the home-schooling, breast-feeding, stay-at-home mom.  In others, she may be the woman volunteering 24/7 in a homeless shelter or some other type of full-time ministry.  There are a variety of stereotypes, depending on your cultural base.  Many Christians lift up the Proverbs 31 woman as the prototype for good, Christian women.  If you look at the whole of Scripture, there are a lot of different women in very different circumstances that shed positive light on Biblical womanhood.  Abigail, Ruth, and Esther.  Priscilla, Phoebe, and Lydia.  Some had husbands, some did not.  Some had kids, some did not. Each had very different stories and responsibilities in life.  But perfection (which means maturity when the Bible uses the term) in Scripture for both men and women is Jesus.  He is the author and finisher of our faith.  We were created, male and female, as image bearers of God, and we all, male and female, are being conformed back to the image of Christ. 

Thank you, Ms. Alsup, for sharing a bit of your heart and passion on the subjects of practical theology, biblical womanhood, and the life affirming grace found in Jesus.

Find out more about Wendy Alsup and The Gospel-Centered Woman at www.theologyforwomen.org. Readers can keep up with Alsup via the Practical Theology for Women Facebook page and follow her on Twitter (@WendyAlsup).

(I received a complimentary copy of this book via Litfuse Publicity Group in exchange for an honest review.)